

The victim usually begins by trusting the abuser because they are siblings.This kind of pressure can break down the siblings' self-esteem and isolate the abused children from other family members. Physical abuse and threats are often used to make sure younger siblings keep the sexual abuse secret. This pressure may include bribes, threats, sexual stimulation or physical force. Because siblings live together, the victim can feel pressured and trapped by the abuser over a long period of time.

Sibling sexual abuse is often very harmful for the following reasons: What are the effects of sibling sexual abuse? The abuser may force two or more other children to engage in sexual activity with one another the abuser may force siblings to watch sexual activity or a pornographic video and the abuser may abuse siblings by repeatedly watching them dress, shower or use the toilet when they don't want to be watched. As in other forms of sexual abuse, sibling sexual abuse does not necessarily involve sexual touching. The abuser may use force, the threat of force, a bribe, the offer of special attention, or a gift to make the victim keep the abuse secret. The abuser usually wins the trust of the victim first, and then violates that trust in order to commit the abuse. If a more powerful sibling, who may be older or stronger, bribes or threatens a weaker sibling into sexual activity, that is called sexual abuse. Sibling sexual abuse, like all forms of sexual abuse, is an abuse of power. Sibling sexual abuse, or incest, can involve a brother and sister, two sisters or two brothers but abuse by an older brother against a younger sister is the most common form. Natural and healthy sexual exploration between children of similar age, size and developmental stage and sexual play that is mutual, voluntary and not coercive, is not sibling abuse. In this booklet the word "sibling" is used to refer to children who grow up in the same family, whether they are step-children, foster children, adopted children or children by birth.

Many parents are afraid to believe that sexual abuse could be possible in their family, and this booklet is meant to support parents in facing that possibility in an informed way. It's also written for parents who want to understand and prevent sibling sexual abuse. This booklet is written for parents who know or suspect there is sibling abuse in their family and want to do something about it.
